Influential Moms

The word “Influence” can be defined as “the power to shape behavior, character, or events.”  When it comes to influencing in the household, there is no question that the the mother is most often the biggest influencer. In the Bible there are several mothers featured whose faith, actions, and resilience shaped history, leadership and religious…

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Being an “Impact Dad”

Someone once said, “There are two sides to every coin.” There are many Dads out there who are making an “impact” on their children, but it may not be an impact one would consider to be spiritually positive and good for them. Let’s focus on the other side of that coin, and the impact Dads…

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Is Viewing Pornography harmful to marriage?

Someone asked me once, “Is it ok for my wife and I to watch a sexually explicit video together to help ‘enhance’ our sexual intimacy?”  A more important question than the one above may be, “Why is it that I think I need to look at someone other than my marriage partner to be able…

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“How to overcome Bitterness”

Bitterness is like terminal cancer in a marriage relationship.  If left undealt with, bitterness will eat away at every area of a couples’ relationship.  Questions to ponder:  I was working with a married couple years ago and you could tell things were rough as they entered because of where they sat in my office.  One…

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One of the Hardest choices after Divorce

There is little difference in the frequency of divorce between Christian married couples and Non-christian married couples these days. When a divorce occurs between any couple there are a number of choices that follow. One of the hardest choices one faces after navigating through a divorce has to do with Forgiveness. There are two sides…

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What can I do to help prevent getting a divorce?

Over the years while providing Christian marriage counseling I have been asked numerous times, “What can I do to help prevent getting a divorce?”  The first place to start is asking yourself the question, “How do I view marriage?” In other words, is your view of marriage in line with how Jesus viewed marriage?  There’s…

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Communication

One of the first areas that break down and goes south in relationships is the area of communication.   In this age which we are living the adage, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” could never be more untrue.  Our words can hurt, heal, lift-up or tear down, so…

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